15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy

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I so very much need to do everything on this list.  I put so much energy into these things and I don't even know why.

Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:

1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT

 There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?

2. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL

Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.

“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu

3. GIVE UP ON BLAME

 Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.

4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK

 Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.

“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle

5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS

about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!

“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle

6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING

 Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.

7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM

Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.

8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS

Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.

9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE

 Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell

10. GIVE UP LABELS

 Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer

11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARS

Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt

12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES

Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.

13. GIVE UP THE PAST

I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.

14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT

This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another,  attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.

15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS

Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves.  You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.

Best Marvel Movie EVAR!!!!

I have gone to see each and every Marvel Comics based film that has been in theaters. The Avengers is truly the absolute best I have scene. I've been reading comics since I was in 4th grade and my collection is huge. Based off of my readings and the films that I have seen over the past 3 decades, I can honestly say that I have NEVER seen a comic book movie that made me so fulfilled and happy then The Avengers.

Joss Whedon has truly out-done himself in aspects of movie direction, screenwriting and movie making in general. The action of the film was epic. The cinematography was gorgeous and the special effects were astounding. I'm glad I didn't see it in 3D because now I can go see it again and match it on the differences.

This is now the standard that all comic book based movies will be judged on. Not because of the SFX or the Action, but because of the story. You couldn't help but care about these characters and the story pulled you in. The drama, the comedy, the action mixed with CG was like nothing I have seen since Star Wars.

There are movies I have loved and movies I have Hated. This is now the top bar. Everyone now has to reach to get past it.

Thank you Joss Whedon. Dude you ROCK!

A Stand Against "Bully"ing.

I was bullied through all of Grammer school, Junior High and High School.


 It effects your whole life. 


 It never leaves you.


The scars are permanent. 


Never healing, always hurting.


 It MUST STOP!


http://action.thebullyproject.com/takeastand

I finished watch the new independent film "Bully". It brought a whole lot of old scars to the surface. There isn't a day goes by, that I don't remember a time in my life when I was bullied.  I don't try to remember those moments. They just spring into my head. I try to shake them out. But they sit there, reminding me of what I learned that particular day.  People will do anything to make themselves feel bigger/better then you.
 
  Parents don't always know when their kids are being bullied. This is because the kids are embarrassed to tell their parents. The parents that do know the kids being bullied will address the school to do something about it. The school then takes the bully aside and punishes them. The punishment will consist of a lecture, contact the parents, and a warning. The bully retaliates by not only bullying the kid again, but worse for getting them in trouble. The kid then reports it and the punishment stiffens.  On a social standing, the kid who was bullied will then be ostracized by his classmates for telling on the bully. This then leads to additional ridicule and belittlement.
  Now the kids who don't tell on the bully and suffer in silence, these are usually the ones that take it for so long that they finally blow up in rage against the bully or someone who finally pushes them too far.  This will usually end up with the kid being bullied to end up being disciplined for standing up for himself.  The other result rather then blowing up at someone is them internally giving up. This can lead to destructive behavior on themselves; isolation, cutting, mental disorders, depression, and suicide.

  In many ways, bullying is the result of prejudice and bigotry as much as simply wanting to blame someone for problems at home. At the ages of 5-19, kids are just learning who they are in the world and are open to multiple influences and ideas.  There are conflicting issues from home and the world around them. They try to stand behind something because they want to be part of something that others are part of and want to be accepted.  Many times they don't even realize that what they are doing is wrong, because no one told them it was or it was acceptable behavior at home. When they are confronted they either respond as they would at home or they accept that they need to change.
  This is not always as simple as I have stated. Teachers must deal with this on a daily basis.  Parents are not their to see what is going on and many times are completely blind until they hear it from their kids or from the school.
  This is also not always received in a constructive way. Parents will lash out at the school or a the other parents and it doesn't solve the problem but makes it worse.  Violence can issue and you end up with police involvement and negative controversy tarnishing the schools and making it difficult for them to function or control the resulting back-lash.

  In the end, almost nothing is done to curb bullying. Yes, some schools have policies against it, but  that doesn't mean that all schools do.  The sad thing is that the teachers don't want to allow this to happen. They don't want to see the kids being bullied or treated this way. But what can they do?  If they discipline the kid and hold them accountable, the parents of the bully then make a case against the school because the bully will deny that they did anything. The worst is that because of the steady decline of our school systems and the lack of ability for the teachers to keep discipline in the classroom, bullying is allowed to run, unchecked!  How are your kids going to be protected if the schools don't have the resources to protect them.
  If the bullying problem is ever going to be rectified, Teachers need to be able to discipline the kids in the classroom. The punishments for misbehavior and harassment or bullying need to be more strict and unmovable.
  When the schools are given the funds and means to hold those responsible for bullying, as well as curb it before it starts, only then will it truly end. But until the schools get the support they so desperately need, bullying will never stop and more kids will go through life feeling like that are worthless. If they are the ones lucky enough to not commit suicide.

Read this! Paul Douglas: A Message From a Republican Meteorologist on Climate Change

Paul Douglas: A Message From a Republican Meteorologist on Climate Change:

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  Ok I'm a optimist when it comes to the possibility for humanity to wise up and follow the bread crumbs to the realization that the world is changing and we caused it. But we also can fix the problem by giving up what made it this way.
   Are carbon production and use has gotten out of hand.  And now our weather is changing in Record Breaking ways.  Temperatures are on the rise when they should be low. Wet weather is moving in when there should be ice and snow.  This is not something to be rejoicing for, this is something to be worried about.
   Now I'm no extremest and saying you need to throw out your car and anything carbon producing, NO!  What I'm saying is use it a little less. If you can, carpool with a friend. Take the train, Use public transportation. Turn off the lights if you don't need them. Recycle your plastic, paper, metal, electronics and batteries. Change the bulbs to be more efficient. Put in windows that don't leak heat and AC. Trade in your car for a hybrid or electric car. But do these over the course of a year or 2 or 3.  These changes are not super expensive to make and if you do them over time, you'll find your not only saving money but you can get a tax return of a higher amount each year.
 Seriously people, the world is changing now because of what we didn't do 20-30 years ago. Now it's getting to the point where we HAVE to start changing or we will end up not making problems for ourselves. But problems for our children and our grandchildren. Our Generation is screwed. But lets not screw it up for our kids and the generations coming after us.
  If were lucky, we may be able to save thousands of lives in 20 years and then millions of lives in 50 years.  I think that's a pretty good thing to leave behind when I pass on. A healthy Great - grandson is all I want to leave behind me. That's why I make the changes. So I can tell my son, "Yeah we needed to change, Son. And you know what....We did."

TRUE STORY: If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing? «

TRUE STORY: If we do not have a moment to stop and listen to one of the best musicians in the world playing the best music ever written, how many other things are we missing? «:
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It really makes you think about what you could be missing.

Worth a read!

  Started reading this on Suicide Girls this morning and thought it was worth passing it on.

CULTURE: Occupy Rising: The American Spring Is Here

Copied from: Confessions of a ‘Bad’ Teacher - NYTimes.com

I have a sister who's a Teacher. I have a Fiance who is a Teacher. I have 2 cousins who are Teachers. I have many Friends who are Teachers.

I think Teachers are the ones who can save our future generations from poverty and criminal lives. Unfortunately the government and state systems put in place to help these great people are failing them miserably. They are strangling the system and laying off the staff that is needed to make it all work. They have not only ham-stringed the Teachers in both lack of staff and pay but they also then smear their reputations when they fail to meet unrealistic standards in the reduced environments of our current schools.

Schools that are in badly needed upgrading and refurbishing. No Air-conditioning for the spring and summer months. Inadequate locker storage for students books and supplies. Computers that haven't been upgraded since 2004. Textbooks without a current map of the world or up-to-date world facts. Heck the teachers have to buy and supply the students with all papers and writing assignments out of their own pocket! Not out of a separate fund that should be given by the state for copies and material, out of Teachers own paycheck! which then cuts their pay in half.

Not to mention that the parents of most of the kids are taking the kids word about the teachers as the truth. They are not appreciating that a kid who complains about their teacher most likely is the one misbehaving and causing the problems in the schools. But instead of the parents Dealing with the kids, the parents are then blame the Teachers for their problems. WHY!? The Teachers are paid to TEACH, not to curb your kids attitude and discipline them since you have been spoiling them for years.

The parents even allow their kids to bring a cellphone to school. If you need to give a kid a cellphone, make it only able to make phone calls. No Text or anything else, otherwise you end up with a distracted or disruptive kid, texting, listening to music and not paying attention.

Teachers should have more respect then they do. They are working harder and longer hours then ever before and more responsibility for your kids then you have shown since their birth. Teachers can't stop working and go home like everyone else. They have stacks of papers to grade and lesson assignments to create on a daily basis. When they go home it is usually to a stack of papers to work on and barely enough sleep to survive. Heaven for bid if they decide to have a family. When do they have time to meet someone and start a family. Let alone if they decide to have kids of their own. How do you spend time with you 2 year old son when you have to take care of 28-30 other peoples kids first? It's NOT FAIR!

Their needs to be a Massive Dramatic change in how Teachers are treated and supported. I personally think that every politician in the United States needs to take a 20% pay cut. Which can not be counted as a taxable donation or that can be refunded. In addition all political campaigns that are held, half of the money raised must automatically be pushed towards the public schools in their perspective states, since most of it is used for TV ads and smear campaigns. This money is immediately put to paying for the refurbishing of Public Schools and the hiring of Teachers and support staff as well as supplies for all the Public Schools in the United States.

Politicians have been taking money from the public school systems for years. I think it's time to start putting it back in.

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