This is a letter I wrote to my friend to tell her to clean up her life before she ends up in a bad place.
"Amy,
You are my friend. We have been friends since 2005. We may not have met under the best circumstances, but we ended up kindred spirits of a like. I have seen you at some of the best times and at the worst. More so in recent years but then you've seen me in my worst times. We both have our scars from the world. We both have been harmed, but I see you doing yourself more harm then good. I see you and I hurt inside. I feel myself empathizing what you must be feeling. The sadness, grief, sorrow, darkness that I see you falling into, surrounds me. I want more than anything to reach out, grab hold of you, and pull you out of this darkness. I want to take you away from it and keep you safe. But I know I can't. I can't do what I want to do because it won't solve the problem.
There is no band-aide that I can put over your wound to allow it to heal. I can't take the drink out of your hand and throw away your liquor. I can't force you to make yourself better and to bring yourself out of the tailspin you are diving into. You think you are alone and that no one cares. You've think you can fix what is wrong on your own, without any help. What you don't realize is that you have been sitting in a pot of water that has been slowly heating up until now, you can't see that you are boiling to death.
What hurts me the most, is the fear that because I can't make you better, is that I will lose you. That hurts me more than anything. I have held you in my arms and held you in my heart. I care for you beyond love, beyond family and beyond friendship. I care about you Amy."
Over the last 2 weeks she has been in the hospital for liver and kidney problems. She is now in the ICU. The doctors have given her 48 hrs. I'm posting it up because I didn't get to give it to her. I'm going in to say goodbye to her tonight.
I said a rosary prayer 2 days ago asking that I have this opportunity. I'm glad I was heard. I got to speak to her. She was going in and out of consciousness. I hope she heard me.
Don't wait to tell the people you love that they are hurting themselves. Because while your waiting for the right time, you may find that they are already gone.
Amy passed away Sunday June 17th 2012 shortly after 1AM. I was on my way to see her but she passed as I was trying to find parking. The worst part is, when I got to the room and looked at her with her eyes shut, I remembered a dream where I was looking down at her exactly the same way. I had this dream 3 years earlier. I told her about it when she was still healthy. She told me that I was being over-dramatic.
Thursday, June 14, 2012
Monday, June 4, 2012
What happened this morning......
It's the day after the AVON WALK for Breast Cancer and I'm getting ready for work.
Before I head to the train like always, I have to take Andy, our pet Papillon, out for his daily bathroom break. So I get him leashed up, I head out the backdoor, down the steps out the door and he does his business. I bag it up, throw it out and head for the door to take him back inside. I reach down to my pocket and realize there is nothing there. My keys are supposed to be there, but they are NOT!
Panic sets in...I check my other pockets and I have nothing. No wallet, no cell phone, no keys, no NOTHING! I'm so screwed. My Fiancee is at work and no phone so can't call someone. Now this has happened before so I walk around to the front door and start hitting the door-buzzers for my neighbors. They are really friendly and have no problem helping me out. I hit each button 3 times. No responses. No one is home. I am so screwed!
I start thinking, what are my options? It's 8:50AM and I have to be at work at 10AM. No money so pay phones are out (even if I could find one functioning). I need to contact someone with spare key. Only person besides fiancee is parents. Now I need to get to a phone. I run through locations in my head and first option is the library that is 2 blocks away. I walk with Andy down the street to the library. Arrive about 5 minutes later and looking at the times, Closed till 10AM. FRAKK! Still screwed.
I walk away from the Library and start trying to think of alternatives. I know time is running out before I'm late to work and I need to let them know what is going on. Just then I look across the street and there is an office building. I figure that if they are open I can use the phone. Andy and I walk across the street and up to the door. I pull, but its locked. I turn towards the wall and see a speaker. Must be for people that don't have appointments. I start to move when the door buzzes and I look up to see a woman by a desk looking at me. I open the door and bring Andy in with me. I walk up to her and she greets me with a smile saying, "how can I help you?" She inhales briefly, "Oh, what a beautiful little dog!" she becomes enamored with Andy. I briefly explain the situation and she says, "Oh my, Of course you can use the phone. I've done that to myself many times."
She shows me the phone and tells me to just dial like a normal phone. I instantly call the a parents home phone. no answer. I call my Dad's cell phone. He picks up and I explain the situation. He responds," We are at the funeral." FRAKK! I forgot that my family is at a funeral for a member that died last week. I couldn't go because I had to work. Ask Dad's advice. He gives the best he can but all options won't work because I have no money, no ID and I have a dog. The only option he can give me is to call the locksmith he uses to have them open the door. He gives me the number. I write it down and he wishes me luck as he hangs up. I call work and inform them I'm going to be late, then I call the locksmith and make a appointment for 30 minutes later. From what the lady on the other end told me that it would cost me $72 dollars for the locksmith to pick the lock and if he couldn't get in, he would drill the lock. If he had to do that I would have to pay for replacing the door lock for the building. Frakk! I thank the very nice lady, she says her goodbyes to Andy and we head back down the street to wait.
I find a nice shady spot to sit and start thinking about this situation. Andy puts his legs up on my thigh and just pants away happily as I stroke his head and his back. This is the first time all weekend that I have had time to hang-out with him. I was walking all weekend for the Avon Walk and when I came home I was exhausted. Yesterday after the walk finished I had to get ready to go the wake for my departed family member. So I didn't have time to play with him or anything for 2 days. Granted my fiancee was there but I could tell that he really missed me. It felt good to play with him and I felt a little better. I start thinking that maybe this is punishment from God since I missed mass on Sunday. I honestly figured that walking for women with breast cancer and attending a wake would have been suitable exemptions, but I guess I was wrong.
While sitting with Andy a man comes around the corner and opens up the door to the laundry room. I hear a the window from the laundry room open and a hose comes out. He's one of the building maintenance guys! He has a key? A key that opened the outer door to the laundry room? The same key that would let me in the building. He comes back out through the laundry room door and I explain the situation. He says," Yeah I can let you in, just let me hook up this hose" I say "sure no problem, I can wait." On the inside I'm doing back-flips and jumping around like a overjoyed cartoon character, screaming YAHOOOO!!!
After he finishes hooking the hose up, he opens the door. I thank him profoundly and with Andy by my side head up the steps to my place. I jump on the phone and call the locksmith to cancel the appointment. I call and leave messages with the family that I'm heading to work. Finally I give Andy a treat, make sure he has plenty of water and the A/C is on. I grab my keys, wallet, bag and Car keys and head down to try and make it to work.
I arrived 10 minutes late. How's that for one CRAZY MORNING????!!!!
Before I head to the train like always, I have to take Andy, our pet Papillon, out for his daily bathroom break. So I get him leashed up, I head out the backdoor, down the steps out the door and he does his business. I bag it up, throw it out and head for the door to take him back inside. I reach down to my pocket and realize there is nothing there. My keys are supposed to be there, but they are NOT!
Panic sets in...I check my other pockets and I have nothing. No wallet, no cell phone, no keys, no NOTHING! I'm so screwed. My Fiancee is at work and no phone so can't call someone. Now this has happened before so I walk around to the front door and start hitting the door-buzzers for my neighbors. They are really friendly and have no problem helping me out. I hit each button 3 times. No responses. No one is home. I am so screwed!
I start thinking, what are my options? It's 8:50AM and I have to be at work at 10AM. No money so pay phones are out (even if I could find one functioning). I need to contact someone with spare key. Only person besides fiancee is parents. Now I need to get to a phone. I run through locations in my head and first option is the library that is 2 blocks away. I walk with Andy down the street to the library. Arrive about 5 minutes later and looking at the times, Closed till 10AM. FRAKK! Still screwed.
I walk away from the Library and start trying to think of alternatives. I know time is running out before I'm late to work and I need to let them know what is going on. Just then I look across the street and there is an office building. I figure that if they are open I can use the phone. Andy and I walk across the street and up to the door. I pull, but its locked. I turn towards the wall and see a speaker. Must be for people that don't have appointments. I start to move when the door buzzes and I look up to see a woman by a desk looking at me. I open the door and bring Andy in with me. I walk up to her and she greets me with a smile saying, "how can I help you?" She inhales briefly, "Oh, what a beautiful little dog!" she becomes enamored with Andy. I briefly explain the situation and she says, "Oh my, Of course you can use the phone. I've done that to myself many times."
She shows me the phone and tells me to just dial like a normal phone. I instantly call the a parents home phone. no answer. I call my Dad's cell phone. He picks up and I explain the situation. He responds," We are at the funeral." FRAKK! I forgot that my family is at a funeral for a member that died last week. I couldn't go because I had to work. Ask Dad's advice. He gives the best he can but all options won't work because I have no money, no ID and I have a dog. The only option he can give me is to call the locksmith he uses to have them open the door. He gives me the number. I write it down and he wishes me luck as he hangs up. I call work and inform them I'm going to be late, then I call the locksmith and make a appointment for 30 minutes later. From what the lady on the other end told me that it would cost me $72 dollars for the locksmith to pick the lock and if he couldn't get in, he would drill the lock. If he had to do that I would have to pay for replacing the door lock for the building. Frakk! I thank the very nice lady, she says her goodbyes to Andy and we head back down the street to wait.
I find a nice shady spot to sit and start thinking about this situation. Andy puts his legs up on my thigh and just pants away happily as I stroke his head and his back. This is the first time all weekend that I have had time to hang-out with him. I was walking all weekend for the Avon Walk and when I came home I was exhausted. Yesterday after the walk finished I had to get ready to go the wake for my departed family member. So I didn't have time to play with him or anything for 2 days. Granted my fiancee was there but I could tell that he really missed me. It felt good to play with him and I felt a little better. I start thinking that maybe this is punishment from God since I missed mass on Sunday. I honestly figured that walking for women with breast cancer and attending a wake would have been suitable exemptions, but I guess I was wrong.
While sitting with Andy a man comes around the corner and opens up the door to the laundry room. I hear a the window from the laundry room open and a hose comes out. He's one of the building maintenance guys! He has a key? A key that opened the outer door to the laundry room? The same key that would let me in the building. He comes back out through the laundry room door and I explain the situation. He says," Yeah I can let you in, just let me hook up this hose" I say "sure no problem, I can wait." On the inside I'm doing back-flips and jumping around like a overjoyed cartoon character, screaming YAHOOOO!!!
After he finishes hooking the hose up, he opens the door. I thank him profoundly and with Andy by my side head up the steps to my place. I jump on the phone and call the locksmith to cancel the appointment. I call and leave messages with the family that I'm heading to work. Finally I give Andy a treat, make sure he has plenty of water and the A/C is on. I grab my keys, wallet, bag and Car keys and head down to try and make it to work.
I arrived 10 minutes late. How's that for one CRAZY MORNING????!!!!
Thursday, May 17, 2012
Verizon Is BANTHA POODOO.
Verizon to Kill Grandfathered Unlimited Data Plans. This Is Bullshit.:
'via Blog this'
I'm so happy that I'm not the only one who is pissed off about Verizon screwing all of us loyal users of their service who are getting the axe. Seriously, this is the thanks we get for sticking with them throughout the entire run of the smartphone era!
Instead of putting more money into the data plan so they don't have to end Unlimited plans. They should put more money into the technology so they can expand it and make the other companies options small by comparison.
They have been beating AT&T for over 2 years! Now they are following suit to them!!! WHAT THE FRAKK MAN?!
If they would put less money into the frakking advertisements and that wasted, bantha fodder software they have, they could improve their service areas to the ENTIRE North American Continent! Especially in areas where NO service is currently available. Instead of screwing us, put your money into becoming the best service available.
IF they follow threw with this. I'm taking my money and leaving. I Frakking don't care about the early termination fees!
Verizon to Kill Grandfathered Unlimited Data Plans. This Is Bullshit.
Unlimited data on Verizon is dead. The death rattle just wheezed out during Verizon Communications CFO Fran Shammo's dream-killing presentation at the JP Morgan Technology, Media and Telecom conference. Everyone with a grandfathered unlimited data plan will be forced to switch to a tiered plan when they upgrade to LTE. It's absurd, warrantless, and sadly, typically, aggressively anti-consumer.
Killing unlimited—especially grandfathered plans—was always going to piss off, well, everyone, but Verizon thinks it has a good reason. "Everyone will be on data share," Shammo said. All customers will be forced onto Verizon's new shared data plans once their upgrade cycle comes around, which are in theory easier to manage for multi-device families. Except that doesn't really pass the smell test.
Here's the thing: shared plans aren't evil. They actually make some sense with the amount of wireless devices we carry around at this point. Phones, tablets, MiFis, even 3G laptops are getting pretty good. And a shared, unified data plan would keep you from having to pay for a MiFi, an iPad, and a smartphone, all separately. But if you only have one device, and you are just fine, thank you, with the plan that you have, there is no sense to forcing you off of your plan and squeezing you into one that accommodates an iPad you don't own.
Verizon's unlimited data hasn't been available since last summer. But for those of us who snuck in under the cutoff, there was a sense of safety. AT&T killed its unlimited plans back in the middle of 2010, and there had been no indication that there would be a retroactive culling of them going forward. As long as you were careful with your plan, you were free to keep it.
Verizon's policy had been fairly benevolent until now, at least outwardly. 3G unlimited users were allowed to keep their unlimited plans when they moved to LTE, with no added charge. There had been signs that Verizon had been getting wary of unlimited sticking around, with its push to make 3G Facetime only available to non-unlimited customers.
Admittedly, most people who have unlimited plans don't actually need unlimited data, or anything close to it. But that's beyond the point. Verizon sold a product, and through no fault of its customers—most of whom aren't even abusing it—it is now calling takebacks.
We've contacted Verizon, and it has refused to comment on whether this is actually definitely positively happening, but given the certainty behind Shammo's presentation, don't hold your breath. [Verizon via FierceWireless, MobileBurn via Engadget]
Tuesday, May 15, 2012
15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy
15 Things You Should Give Up To Be Happy:
'via Blog this'
I so very much need to do everything on this list. I put so much energy into these things and I don't even know why.
'via Blog this'
I so very much need to do everything on this list. I put so much energy into these things and I don't even know why.
Here is a list of 15 things which, if you give up on them, will make your life a lot easier and much, much happier. We hold on to so many things that cause us a great deal of pain, stress and suffering – and instead of letting them all go, instead of allowing ourselves to be stress free and happy – we cling on to them. Not anymore. Starting today we will give up on all those things that no longer serve us, and we will embrace change. Ready? Here we go:
1. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO ALWAYS BE RIGHT
There are so many of us who can’t stand the idea of being wrong – wanting to always be right – even at the risk of ending great relationships or causing a great deal of stress and pain, for us and for others. It’s just not worth it. Whenever you feel the ‘urgent’ need to jump into a fight over who is right and who is wrong, ask yourself this question: “Would I rather be right, or would I rather be kind?”Wayne Dyer. What difference will that make? Is your ego really that big?
2. GIVE UP YOUR NEED FOR CONTROL
Be willing to give up your need to always control everything that happens to you and around you – situations, events, people, etc. Whether they are loved ones, coworkers, or just strangers you meet on the street – just allow them to be. Allow everything and everyone to be just as they are and you will see how much better will that make you feel.
“By letting it go it all gets done. The world is won by those who let it go. But when you try and try. The world is beyond winning.” Lao Tzu
3. GIVE UP ON BLAME
Give up on your need to blame others for what you have or don’t have, for what you feel or don’t feel. Stop giving your powers away and start taking responsibility for your life.
4. GIVE UP YOUR SELF-DEFEATING SELF-TALK
Oh my. How many people are hurting themselves because of their negative, polluted and repetitive self-defeating mindset? Don’t believe everything that your mind is telling you – especially if it’s negative and self-defeating. You are better than that.
“The mind is a superb instrument if used rightly. Used wrongly, however, it becomes very destructive.” Eckhart Tolle
5. GIVE UP YOUR LIMITING BELIEFS
about what you can or cannot do, about what is possible or impossible. From now on, you are no longer going to allow your limiting beliefs to keep you stuck in the wrong place. Spread your wings and fly!
“A belief is not an idea held by the mind, it is an idea that holds the mind” Elly Roselle
6. GIVE UP COMPLAINING
Give up your constant need to complain about those many, many, maaany things – people, situations, events that make you unhappy, sad and depressed. Nobody can make you unhappy, no situation can make you sad or miserable unless you allow it to. It’s not the situation that triggers those feelings in you, but how you choose to look at it. Never underestimate the power of positive thinking.
7. GIVE UP THE LUXURY OF CRITICISM
Give up your need to criticize things, events or people that are different than you. We are all different, yet we are all the same. We all want to be happy, we all want to love and be loved and we all want to be understood. We all want something, and something is wished by us all.
8. GIVE UP YOUR NEED TO IMPRESS OTHERS
Stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not just to make others like you. It doesn’t work this way. The moment you stop trying so hard to be something that you’re not, the moment you take off all your masks, the moment you accept and embrace the real you, you will find people will be drawn to you, effortlessly.
9. GIVE UP YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE
Change is good. Change will help you move from A to B. Change will help you make improvements in your life and also the lives of those around you. Follow your bliss, embrace change – don’t resist it.
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell
“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls” Joseph Campbell
10. GIVE UP LABELS
Stop labeling those things, people or events that you don’t understand as being weird or different and try opening your mind, little by little. Minds only work when open. “The highest form of ignorance is when you reject something you don’t know anything about.” Wayne Dyer
11. GIVE UP ON YOUR FEARS
Fear is just an illusion, it doesn’t exist – you created it. It’s all in your mind. Correct the inside and the outside will fall into place.
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
“The only thing we have to fear, is fear itself.” Franklin D. Roosevelt
12. GIVE UP YOUR EXCUSES
Send them packing and tell them they’re fired. You no longer need them. A lot of times we limit ourselves because of the many excuses we use. Instead of growing and working on improving ourselves and our lives, we get stuck, lying to ourselves, using all kind of excuses – excuses that 99.9% of the time are not even real.
13. GIVE UP THE PAST
I know, I know. It’s hard. Especially when the past looks so much better than the present and the future looks so frightening, but you have to take into consideration the fact that the present moment is all you have and all you will ever have. The past you are now longing for – the past that you are now dreaming about – was ignored by you when it was present. Stop deluding yourself. Be present in everything you do and enjoy life. After all life is a journey not a destination. Have a clear vision for the future, prepare yourself, but always be present in the now.
14. GIVE UP ATTACHMENT
This is a concept that, for most of us is so hard to grasp and I have to tell you that it was for me too, (it still is) but it’s not something impossible. You get better and better at with time and practice. The moment you detach yourself from all things, (and that doesn’t mean you give up your love for them – because love and attachment have nothing to do with one another, attachment comes from a place of fear, while love… well, real love is pure, kind, and self less, where there is love there can’t be fear, and because of that, attachment and love cannot coexist) you become so peaceful, so tolerant, so kind, and so serene. You will get to a place where you will be able to understand all things without even trying. A state beyond words.
15. GIVE UP LIVING YOUR LIFE TO OTHER PEOPLE’S EXPECTATIONS
Way too many people are living a life that is not theirs to live. They live their lives according to what others think is best for them, they live their lives according to what their parents think is best for them, to what their friends, their enemies and their teachers, their government and the media think is best for them. They ignore their inner voice, that inner calling. They are so busy with pleasing everybody, with living up to other people’s expectations, that they lose control over their lives. They forget what makes them happy, what they want, what they need….and eventually they forget about themselves. You have one life – this one right now – you must live it, own it, and especially don’t let other people’s opinions distract you from your path.
Friday, May 4, 2012
Best Marvel Movie EVAR!!!!
I have gone to see each and every Marvel Comics based film that has been in theaters. The Avengers is truly the absolute best I have scene. I've been reading comics since I was in 4th grade and my collection is huge. Based off of my readings and the films that I have seen over the past 3 decades, I can honestly say that I have NEVER seen a comic book movie that made me so fulfilled and happy then The Avengers.
Joss Whedon has truly out-done himself in aspects of movie direction, screenwriting and movie making in general. The action of the film was epic. The cinematography was gorgeous and the special effects were astounding. I'm glad I didn't see it in 3D because now I can go see it again and match it on the differences.
This is now the standard that all comic book based movies will be judged on. Not because of the SFX or the Action, but because of the story. You couldn't help but care about these characters and the story pulled you in. The drama, the comedy, the action mixed with CG was like nothing I have seen since Star Wars.
There are movies I have loved and movies I have Hated. This is now the top bar. Everyone now has to reach to get past it.
Thank you Joss Whedon. Dude you ROCK!
Monday, April 2, 2012
A Stand Against "Bully"ing.
I was bullied through all of Grammer school, Junior High and High School.
It effects your whole life.
It never leaves you.
The scars are permanent.
Never healing, always hurting.
It MUST STOP!
http://action.thebullyproject.com/takeastand
I finished watch the new independent film "Bully". It brought a whole lot of old scars to the surface. There isn't a day goes by, that I don't remember a time in my life when I was bullied. I don't try to remember those moments. They just spring into my head. I try to shake them out. But they sit there, reminding me of what I learned that particular day. People will do anything to make themselves feel bigger/better then you.
Parents don't always know when their kids are being bullied. This is because the kids are embarrassed to tell their parents. The parents that do know the kids being bullied will address the school to do something about it. The school then takes the bully aside and punishes them. The punishment will consist of a lecture, contact the parents, and a warning. The bully retaliates by not only bullying the kid again, but worse for getting them in trouble. The kid then reports it and the punishment stiffens. On a social standing, the kid who was bullied will then be ostracized by his classmates for telling on the bully. This then leads to additional ridicule and belittlement.
Now the kids who don't tell on the bully and suffer in silence, these are usually the ones that take it for so long that they finally blow up in rage against the bully or someone who finally pushes them too far. This will usually end up with the kid being bullied to end up being disciplined for standing up for himself. The other result rather then blowing up at someone is them internally giving up. This can lead to destructive behavior on themselves; isolation, cutting, mental disorders, depression, and suicide.
In many ways, bullying is the result of prejudice and bigotry as much as simply wanting to blame someone for problems at home. At the ages of 5-19, kids are just learning who they are in the world and are open to multiple influences and ideas. There are conflicting issues from home and the world around them. They try to stand behind something because they want to be part of something that others are part of and want to be accepted. Many times they don't even realize that what they are doing is wrong, because no one told them it was or it was acceptable behavior at home. When they are confronted they either respond as they would at home or they accept that they need to change.
This is not always as simple as I have stated. Teachers must deal with this on a daily basis. Parents are not their to see what is going on and many times are completely blind until they hear it from their kids or from the school.
This is also not always received in a constructive way. Parents will lash out at the school or a the other parents and it doesn't solve the problem but makes it worse. Violence can issue and you end up with police involvement and negative controversy tarnishing the schools and making it difficult for them to function or control the resulting back-lash.
In the end, almost nothing is done to curb bullying. Yes, some schools have policies against it, but that doesn't mean that all schools do. The sad thing is that the teachers don't want to allow this to happen. They don't want to see the kids being bullied or treated this way. But what can they do? If they discipline the kid and hold them accountable, the parents of the bully then make a case against the school because the bully will deny that they did anything. The worst is that because of the steady decline of our school systems and the lack of ability for the teachers to keep discipline in the classroom, bullying is allowed to run, unchecked! How are your kids going to be protected if the schools don't have the resources to protect them.
If the bullying problem is ever going to be rectified, Teachers need to be able to discipline the kids in the classroom. The punishments for misbehavior and harassment or bullying need to be more strict and unmovable.
When the schools are given the funds and means to hold those responsible for bullying, as well as curb it before it starts, only then will it truly end. But until the schools get the support they so desperately need, bullying will never stop and more kids will go through life feeling like that are worthless. If they are the ones lucky enough to not commit suicide.
It effects your whole life.
It never leaves you.
The scars are permanent.
Never healing, always hurting.
It MUST STOP!
http://action.thebullyproject.com/takeastand
I finished watch the new independent film "Bully". It brought a whole lot of old scars to the surface. There isn't a day goes by, that I don't remember a time in my life when I was bullied. I don't try to remember those moments. They just spring into my head. I try to shake them out. But they sit there, reminding me of what I learned that particular day. People will do anything to make themselves feel bigger/better then you.
Parents don't always know when their kids are being bullied. This is because the kids are embarrassed to tell their parents. The parents that do know the kids being bullied will address the school to do something about it. The school then takes the bully aside and punishes them. The punishment will consist of a lecture, contact the parents, and a warning. The bully retaliates by not only bullying the kid again, but worse for getting them in trouble. The kid then reports it and the punishment stiffens. On a social standing, the kid who was bullied will then be ostracized by his classmates for telling on the bully. This then leads to additional ridicule and belittlement.
Now the kids who don't tell on the bully and suffer in silence, these are usually the ones that take it for so long that they finally blow up in rage against the bully or someone who finally pushes them too far. This will usually end up with the kid being bullied to end up being disciplined for standing up for himself. The other result rather then blowing up at someone is them internally giving up. This can lead to destructive behavior on themselves; isolation, cutting, mental disorders, depression, and suicide.
In many ways, bullying is the result of prejudice and bigotry as much as simply wanting to blame someone for problems at home. At the ages of 5-19, kids are just learning who they are in the world and are open to multiple influences and ideas. There are conflicting issues from home and the world around them. They try to stand behind something because they want to be part of something that others are part of and want to be accepted. Many times they don't even realize that what they are doing is wrong, because no one told them it was or it was acceptable behavior at home. When they are confronted they either respond as they would at home or they accept that they need to change.
This is not always as simple as I have stated. Teachers must deal with this on a daily basis. Parents are not their to see what is going on and many times are completely blind until they hear it from their kids or from the school.
This is also not always received in a constructive way. Parents will lash out at the school or a the other parents and it doesn't solve the problem but makes it worse. Violence can issue and you end up with police involvement and negative controversy tarnishing the schools and making it difficult for them to function or control the resulting back-lash.
In the end, almost nothing is done to curb bullying. Yes, some schools have policies against it, but that doesn't mean that all schools do. The sad thing is that the teachers don't want to allow this to happen. They don't want to see the kids being bullied or treated this way. But what can they do? If they discipline the kid and hold them accountable, the parents of the bully then make a case against the school because the bully will deny that they did anything. The worst is that because of the steady decline of our school systems and the lack of ability for the teachers to keep discipline in the classroom, bullying is allowed to run, unchecked! How are your kids going to be protected if the schools don't have the resources to protect them.
If the bullying problem is ever going to be rectified, Teachers need to be able to discipline the kids in the classroom. The punishments for misbehavior and harassment or bullying need to be more strict and unmovable.
When the schools are given the funds and means to hold those responsible for bullying, as well as curb it before it starts, only then will it truly end. But until the schools get the support they so desperately need, bullying will never stop and more kids will go through life feeling like that are worthless. If they are the ones lucky enough to not commit suicide.
Friday, March 30, 2012
Read this! Paul Douglas: A Message From a Republican Meteorologist on Climate Change
Paul Douglas: A Message From a Republican Meteorologist on Climate Change:
'via Blog this'
Ok I'm a optimist when it comes to the possibility for humanity to wise up and follow the bread crumbs to the realization that the world is changing and we caused it. But we also can fix the problem by giving up what made it this way.
Are carbon production and use has gotten out of hand. And now our weather is changing in Record Breaking ways. Temperatures are on the rise when they should be low. Wet weather is moving in when there should be ice and snow. This is not something to be rejoicing for, this is something to be worried about.
Now I'm no extremest and saying you need to throw out your car and anything carbon producing, NO! What I'm saying is use it a little less. If you can, carpool with a friend. Take the train, Use public transportation. Turn off the lights if you don't need them. Recycle your plastic, paper, metal, electronics and batteries. Change the bulbs to be more efficient. Put in windows that don't leak heat and AC. Trade in your car for a hybrid or electric car. But do these over the course of a year or 2 or 3. These changes are not super expensive to make and if you do them over time, you'll find your not only saving money but you can get a tax return of a higher amount each year.
Seriously people, the world is changing now because of what we didn't do 20-30 years ago. Now it's getting to the point where we HAVE to start changing or we will end up not making problems for ourselves. But problems for our children and our grandchildren. Our Generation is screwed. But lets not screw it up for our kids and the generations coming after us.
If were lucky, we may be able to save thousands of lives in 20 years and then millions of lives in 50 years. I think that's a pretty good thing to leave behind when I pass on. A healthy Great - grandson is all I want to leave behind me. That's why I make the changes. So I can tell my son, "Yeah we needed to change, Son. And you know what....We did."
'via Blog this'
Ok I'm a optimist when it comes to the possibility for humanity to wise up and follow the bread crumbs to the realization that the world is changing and we caused it. But we also can fix the problem by giving up what made it this way.
Are carbon production and use has gotten out of hand. And now our weather is changing in Record Breaking ways. Temperatures are on the rise when they should be low. Wet weather is moving in when there should be ice and snow. This is not something to be rejoicing for, this is something to be worried about.
Now I'm no extremest and saying you need to throw out your car and anything carbon producing, NO! What I'm saying is use it a little less. If you can, carpool with a friend. Take the train, Use public transportation. Turn off the lights if you don't need them. Recycle your plastic, paper, metal, electronics and batteries. Change the bulbs to be more efficient. Put in windows that don't leak heat and AC. Trade in your car for a hybrid or electric car. But do these over the course of a year or 2 or 3. These changes are not super expensive to make and if you do them over time, you'll find your not only saving money but you can get a tax return of a higher amount each year.
Seriously people, the world is changing now because of what we didn't do 20-30 years ago. Now it's getting to the point where we HAVE to start changing or we will end up not making problems for ourselves. But problems for our children and our grandchildren. Our Generation is screwed. But lets not screw it up for our kids and the generations coming after us.
If were lucky, we may be able to save thousands of lives in 20 years and then millions of lives in 50 years. I think that's a pretty good thing to leave behind when I pass on. A healthy Great - grandson is all I want to leave behind me. That's why I make the changes. So I can tell my son, "Yeah we needed to change, Son. And you know what....We did."
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